Do as I say, not as I do

          How many of you have ever heard the phrase, "Do as I say, not as I do"? Really? I thought more of you would have heard that before. Anyway, it's basically a teaching philosophy used by certain people that know what's best but don't necessarily do it themselves. For instance, let's say you know someone that teaches a safe sex class for teenagers but on the weekends they like to bare back hookers in a cheap motel. They use the philosophy do as I say, not as I do. It's sort of hypocritical. Well it's actually very hypocritical. However, it can be a very affective method of teaching. It works best on younger adults and teenagers. Let me give you a more personal example.
          I am an uncle and a godfather to my wonderful niece Amber. She is currently preparing for her Confirmation next year. I have been asked to be her Mentor and Sponsor for this monumental event in her young Catholic life. Now I know what you're thinking. "Pat, do you think you are the best sponsor or mentor for a young teenager about to embark on this sacred journey?" The answer my friends, is yes! The reason I will be such a fantastic sponsor and mentor is because I understand the philosophy. Do as I say, not as I do. I have the unique ability to realize what's right and wrong for someone else and guide them down the path of enlightenment. I understand that if I wanted to go to confession beforehand I'd have to call ahead so Padre could clear his schedule. That's not important. Don't focus on the negative things I've done according to the Catholic church and 46 of the 48 continental United States. What we need to focus on here is that I'm an exceptional teacher and this philosophy will allow me to do the right thing.
          Another reason I'm allowed to use this philosophy and use it so well is because I have the advantage of being older and wiser then my mentee. This only works if the experience and education level of the teacher is much, much higher. I can say with a fair amount of certainty whether something would be a good idea or not because I've been there. I've probably done it and dealt with the unfavorable consequences. I will always tell my nieces and nephews not to drink in excess even though I still do it myself. It's good advice and I'm in the position to express how bad it is. Do as I say, not as I do.
         This incredible philosophy will work very well in my case as a Catholic Mentor. I may not follow the good book, or do the "Catholic" thing all the time, but I know what is expected of young adult getting ready for such an occasion. I've been there. I've seen many others go through it. With my vast knowledge of this milestone and what is or isn't frowned upon, I might be the best mentor. This does not work with everyone in every situation. Not too many people have the amazing ability to see someone else's rights and wrongs like I do. So if you are new to this philosophy, I warn you to tread softly. Check the temperature of the water before you jump in if you know what I mean. However, if you've been down the wrong path before and are either fighting your way back, or just going with the flow and hoping for another fork in the road, use this philosophy to your advantage. Experience is a powerful tool. Who would you listen to about the dangers of drugs and alcohol? A Mormon who has most likely never experienced either? Or a recovering addict who has been in the back alley in the past giving Hand-jobs for Ham Sandwiches? I'd be listening to the addict. That guy knows the ins and outs and the real life consequences. Do as I say, not as I do.